But, of late, many of my friends are expressing concern over a particular thing. The present atmosphere in which women are educated and employed on par with men is a good thing in the sense that the boy’s party doesn’t expect dowry from the girl’s parents. But the same atmosphere is proving a curse also simultaneously in that the working girls decide their choice of their life-partner with only money in their mind. They attach all importance only to the boy’s salary, prospects for going abroad and promotion. Nuclear family after marriage, own house and only child are the other considerations. The incidence of divorce is ever increasing due to lack of patience and wisdom. Only if this trend is arrested, family, the beautiful structure, will be strengthened.
For centuries, men had dominated women. Women were considered inferior and so money and gifts were given to the boy to compensate for this inequality. Today, women are on par with men in all aspects. But it is not a healthy thing on the part of the girls as well as their parents to take advantage of this situation and behave haughtily, not realizing that they are harming their own interests. A negative cannot be neutralized with another negative. It would only appear as though women are taking revenge on men for the reason that men had dominated and tortured women in the past. This haughty behavior would only damage the unparalleled institution called marriage, which is a beautiful bond based on pure love.
A case can be cited here to drive home this point. Jayanth landed a job in America due to the insistence of his newly married wife. His wife also got a job there. Both are earning very well. They are there in America for ten years now. But they are not happy. Jayanth’s wife is spoiling not only her own happiness but also that of her husband due to her bad traits like suspicion, competition, jealousy etc. What is the earthly use of amassing wealth if there’s no happiness or love? In a family where love is the basis for everything, money will add to the happiness. But, in a family where money is the basis, there’s no hope for love to blossom. The family will be run like a business organization that revolves around money.
Parents should encourage their daughters to stand on their own legs and help them develop their talents. Women can shine on both the fronts – family and achievement. At the same time, the parents should teach them the importance of love, the most important factor for a successful marriage. More than saving for their children, the parents should teach them good things in life, teach them the importance of love, humanness and other good qualities. They should bring them up as good humans. Women should be happy themselves and should make others also happy. If this is achieved their family will become a heaven on earth!
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