In the first way, Ranjini’s words of disappointment are 100% justified, there’s no iota of falsehood in them. When a person is disappointed over the rejection of his/her wish, it is but natural that he/she is totally disappointed and upset. In any family, when a person does a thing that is not approved by the other, disappointment is bound to come to one of the two. In this situation is it wise to face it with anger or brush it aside and go ahead with more interesting things? Usually, it will be the woman who gives in and adjusts. It will be good both for her body and mind. But men shouldn’t take it easy thinking that it is a woman’s trait to adjust, so no need to bother. The man should have some consideration for his wife’s feelings and should try to make her feel happy too.

In many families, trivial things snowball into big problems because of arguments and counter-arguments. Instead of solving the problem, it is the ego ‘I should win’ that becomes foremost and takes hold of the situation stalling solution. Nowadays, the things that a person, be it a man or a woman, does are classified into ‘my space’ and ‘our space’. It has become very important for both the man and the woman to allocate time for his/her own pursuits. We cannot expect anyone to sacrifice his/her own identity once he/she gets married. Also, we cannot expect that a married man or woman’s thoughts should revolve only around his/her family. Depending on one’s circumstances, the duration of time to follow one’s own pursuits might change, but the couple should respect the other person’s ‘space’. This would increase mutual love and respect and strengthen the bond. If the woman is always burdened with household work, she would surely feel frustrated at one time or other. But if her personal wishes are respected and fulfilled, she would do all her work with a feeling of rejuvenation! The man should allocate time for his family every now and then as he is doing for his friends.

Under normal circumstances it is always the man who takes time off for his ‘own space’. In that situation, the wife, instead of getting angered or indulging in self-pity can use this time to her favor. This would surely ensure her growth. A woman’s progress means the progress of her family itself and her family would become a model family. The man and his wife both deserve his/her space to experience a happier ‘our space’.