But, within one week, the situation became upside down. Rama telephoned to me and sought my help requesting to find her some place where she could live with her children peacefully. She said that Ram’s behavior had worsened because of the fact that my husband and I were supportive to her. And, on the same day, she called up again at midnight and cried over phone, requesting us to take her out from that hell the next day itself as she could no longer bear his torture. But, the next day we received the news about her death.

Who is responsible for this miserable life of Rama? There need be no doubt about it, Ram was fully responsible. Anybody would want to hand him over to the police. He is to be blamed for everything. But, we’ve to view the problem from another angle too. First, it should have been found out whether he was suffering from any mental disorder that was responsible for his inhuman behavior towards Rama. He must have been taken to a psychiatrist. His father himself seemed to be a pervert. In that case, Ram must have grown-up in a wrong atmosphere. While putting aside all these arguments, we’ve a big question staring at us. Had Rama no brains? What is the use of her high education and good job? She had not been able to understand what was good for her and her children. If she had been putting up with a pervert all those years, it only meant that her parents had failed to take care of her mental health, they had failed to instill self-confidence in her mind. And, the system of education should also be blamed to some extent for its failure to teach the students how to live a good and disciplined life.

We are always content with shifting the blame onto somebody else for each and every mistake. We blame our parents, husband, wife, children, friends, relatives, situations, society, nation and even God if our life is problematic. This attitude only goes to create the impression that the entire world itself is a place totally unfit to live. Today, we’ve reached a stage when we can take up responsibility for our own happiness. In fact, with the rapid advancement obtained in all fields, we can promise happiness not only to our own family but also that of others. We are living in a country where the population is multiplying in leaps and the percentage of unlettered and the poor is going up with time. There’s no wisdom in looking to others to help us make our lives happy and healthy. Family problems should be resolved amicably and reasonably; we should adhere to certain principles and try to gain control over our lives. If we achieve control over things, perverts like Ram and scapegoats like Rama would no longer be found among us. ‘Rams’ and ‘Ramas’ would disappear and there’ll be peace in every household.