Expectations and ambitions would always look justifiable when seen from the angle of the concerned person. But when they affect the other person, they assume a different color. It is always better to speak out our ambitions and expectations to our partner than keeping everything to ourselves, at the same time, expecting our partner to understand our feelings on his/her own. When one of the couple expresses his/her expectations, it would always be nice on the part of the other to cooperate and help the partner in getting his/her wishes fulfilled. But, if our expectations are not fulfilled, we should be prepared to sacrifice them also for the sake of our loving partner. We shouldn’t think of wreaking vengeance on him/her in future and wait for a suitable opportunity.
And, there’s a humorous story that is told everywhere. Let me narrate it here. A newly married couple was walking down a one-way path. When a thorn pricked the sole of his wife, the man censured the thorn for hurting his wife! Then, he carried his wife in his hands for the rest of the path. And, after many years, the same incident repeated. But now, the man got irritated and reprimanded his wife for her carelessness while walking! This story doesn’t mean to say that as years pass by, love between the man and his wife would fade out. However much romantic the couple might be, there is the hard reality that will keep staring at them. We need wisdom if we are to fulfill our responsibilities and achieve our aims. How long can we continue to remain in our dreamland? We cannot expect the same bustle that marked our life of early years of marriage. It is not possible in anybody’s case as everything in life will have a saturation point.
When our expectations cannot be fulfilled, we shouldn’t get depressed and stop at that; instead, we should think of the next step. Life should always be on the move, we should never allow it to stagnate. The simple way to rectify this situation is to change ourselves. Instead of getting disappointed over our partner’s indifference regarding our expectations, it would be wise to change ourselves to suit the situation. It is always easier to change ourselves than changing another person.
It is a beautiful thing to get a good life-partner and there’s full justification to expect one too. But, at the same time, we should prepare ourselves also to be a good partner. And, we should strive to be one!
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