Divya’s marriage with Rajesh was likely to be finalized. The boy had been chosen by her parents, it was an arranged marriage. Divya’s parents made enquiries about the boy and his conduct through people working in his office. On getting good reports, they heaved a sigh of relief and the betrothal was held.

But when Rajesh’s father learnt that the girl’s party enquired about his son, he got annoyed. He started teasing Divya’s parents for their action and used every opportunity to tease them pointing out that by making enquiries about Rajesh at his own office, they had insulted the boy as well as his father. After marriage also, for two years, till the time of the death of Rajesh’s father, the relationship between the two families remained bitter. If only he had wanted his son to be happy, he could also have been happy. The bitter truth is that by recalling bitter events and feelings, both the sides would only feel more hurt and more agitated. While the parents attach great importance to the celebration part of marriage, they do not equally bother to ensure the continuation of marriage. They feel hesitant to enquire about the boy or the girl fearing it might jeopardize the chances of marriage. They are anxious that the marriage should go off well without any problem and their anxiety stops with this. They wrongly feel that other aspects can be taken care of leisurely after the celebration is over. Somehow or other the children should get married, this is the way of thinking of most of the parents. Any marriage that is concluded without transparency cannot last long.

In a marriage, the fact that the boy was slightly retarded was not revealed to the girl’s party. The girl returned to her parents permanently after one year with a baby. Wrong tactics like hiding facts like a pre-marital love affair, infertility, cheating the girl’s party by giving false information about the job of the boy etc. are resorted to for finalizing a marriage. They justify their action by recalling the popular dictum that justifies even thousand lies for finalizing a marriage! Thorough enquiry about the boy or the girl ensures a strong foundation for marriage; if it is not done, then the foundation itself will start shaking.

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