Coming to food, we notice that the style has undergone a tremendous change. The fashion is to include varied menu. But the saddest part of it is that a good amount of food is being dumped into dustbins as people do not eat all those served. They pick up only the items they like and discard the rest. But, when people show their mental advancement in accepting other cultures and tastes, the cheap attitude of comparing the zari border of the saris presented to close relatives in both the sides continues creating bitter moments during the happy occasion. Here, I would like to share a recent happening that upset me so much. A marriage that was celebrated at a cost of Rs. 15 lakh lasted only for fifteen days and was broken eventually. On inquiring, it came to light that the boy didn’t want that marriage and that he was pressured into the wedlock by his parents. It was like constructing a building without foundation.
It is necessary that the celebration which happens only once in our lifetime should be done in a manner that will bring joy to our mind whenever remembered. But still, if certain changes will do better, why not consider them? A relative of mine avoided all the unnecessary expenditure and with the money saved, he presented a flat to the newly wedded couple. I appreciated this gesture as an idea with foresight. While the girl’s party bore the expenditure for the celebration of the wedding at outstation, the boy’s party bore the expenditure for the reception hosted at Chennai. The expenditure for honeymooning was borne by the couple. This beautiful arrangement created a lot of goodwill amongst themselves and appreciation for each other. We should set ourselves as examples for the present generation by having sensible and intelligent methods and practices that make them emulate us.
Nowadays, the woman is not only the man’s wife but also his friend in that she also possesses education and knowledge on par with him. The practice of the boy’s party demanding dowry from the girl’s parents and the girl’s party obliging is fast disappearing. It is heartening to note that some boys’ parties even show their magnanimity in volunteering to share the celebration expenditure. The few millionaires who have amassed wealth in the form of black money can well afford to spend the money in ostentation. But the ordinary people will do well to realize that wastage of money in celebration for the sake of formalities and show should be avoided in toto and the money thus saved could be gifted to the girl in the form of some good investment. It is the boy’s party that has to play the important role in paving the way for bringing about this good change. Most people think that they can adopt the change when it occurs. They don’t realize that the change can occur only through us!
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